Vaginismus

Do you get scared every time before penetration and the partner cannot insert his penis into your vagina? Do you feel intense pains in the vagina or even contractions of the muscles around the vagina? It is possible that this is caused by vaginismus. Read more about is in the article.

 

Vaginismus is women’s equivalent to men’s impotence. The woman always subconscientiously tightens the vaginal muscles before the penetration of the penis, a finger or an aid, and thus also makes a gynaecological examination impossible. The pain experienced in sexual intercourse, but which does not prevent sexual intercourse, has to be mentioned to your gynaecologist. The gynaecologist will examine you in detail and determine whether there is any physical illness. It usually involves a vaginal infection. If there is a psychological problem, you need the help of a therapist.

 

Some women have vaginismus since youth, while some women develop the condition after a certain period of normal sexual relations. It often involves fear  of sex and there are a number of causes for such fear according to psychoanalysts. The woman’s fear that she will get pregnant, because she sees her father in the partner, and she thus protects herself from incest. The fear that she will experience pain that she links to penetration and birth. The fear that she will be dominated by a man.

 

Friedman (1962) describes three types of women inclined to vaginismus:

• the sleeping beauty (father-type relationship with partner and various feelings of guilt)
• the Brunhilde (the woman perceives sex as a battle between the sexes, and the male dominance has to be opposed)
• the queen bee (the woman perceives sex as dirty and sinful, she is afraid of pain in coitus and, in principle, she wants to get pregnant)

Frequently the partner may be responsible for the development of vaginismus. The partner of such a woman is often impotent, he has other sex problems, he has a flabby personality, he is not self-confident, or he is passive and inexperienced. For his distress the man often blames his partner, who is too tired, nervous, always has a headache, has a too tight vagina and similar. Of course, such a situation is only one of the possible causes.

 

 

Treatment of vaginismus

 
Treatment of vaginismus is effective and it consists of psychotherapy and practical exercises. One of the procedures, developed by Kaplan (1974), is briefly described below. The woman thoroughly studies the anatomy of sexual organs and then she watches and examines her vagina. She tries to insert one finger into the vagina, then two fingers, and she can also use special plastic dildos or tubes that she moves in and out of the vagina. When she masters this phase, her partner can join her. First the woman leads his hand to eliminate fear as much as possible. In the next phase, the partners rub their genitals, but they try to reach orgasm without sexual intercourse, only by hand. Then follows penetration, which is controlled by the woman (woman on top), and they also use moisturisers. The man has to be as still as possible. The method is highly successful.

 
You can find more information on the ways of treating vaginismus together with your partner in videos on the payable sites, where advice about vaginismus is given by experts.

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